About New York – Part II

Now here comes the magic…

The hotel elevator doors opened and slightly slouched in the back corner, clutching a cell phone in each hand, was the most decadent piece of walking chocolate my eyes had beheld in quite some time…smartly dressed in perfectly fitting jeans, a snug charcoal grey sweater with leather elbow patches and coordinating scarf, and a neatly groomed salt and pepper beard…and smelling of the sexiest musky cologne. I gave him a polite smile and got on the elevator. Still rubbing lotion into my hands, I see him checking me in my peripheral. So I give him a half glance back as if to say, “Yeah, I see you too.” After a few seconds he speaks in a thick accent…”Greetings of the Season.” After a few clumsy, “I’m sorry’s?” from me, I was finally able to make out what he was saying. I recovered with a warm smiled, ever so slightly batted my eyes and replied, “Oh thank You. Same to you.”

My room was on the 23rd floor, so we had a little time to chat. And as busy as the hotel was, we managed to make it all the way down to the lobby without picking up any additional passengers. I really can’t remember much of what was said, except that we were both traveling alone. Once we exited the elevator, I was on my way out when he, clearly not ready to part, asked what I was getting ready to do. I told him that I was walking to the pharmacy. He asked if he could walk with me. I obliged him. Him. Within minutes, he felt like less of a stranger and more like an old friend. Cracking jokes and exchanging base information, we walked to Duane Reade. He grabbed a basket and held it as I shopped. When the attendant gave me the total, he reached into his pocket for his wallet. I immediately tried to discourage him from paying, but he insisted, going so far as to playfully slap my hand away from the card reader when I tried to pay. Very well, sir…very well. He carried my bags back up to the 23rd floor and waited for me by the elevators. I put the bags in my room, gave myself a once over in the mirror and we headed down to the lobby bar.

lobby bar

We must have talked for 4 or 5 hours. At some point during the conversation, he asked what I had planned for the next day. I told him that I would be shopping during the day and for the evening I had a ticket to the Alvin Ailey Dance Theater’s performance and a dinner reservation at Red Rooster in Harlem after the show. He asked if he could accompany me. Although the conversation and the company were great, I really wanted to leave it at that.

He was very vocal about his desire to see me again and to keep in contact, but I encouraged him to just focus on the moment. Certainly, I would have loved to continue to get to know him beyond New York, but it felt unwise, naïve even, to create any expectation of that actually happening.

I told him that I bought my ticket 4 or 5 weeks prior, so he probably wouldn’t be able to find a seat next to me at the theater. He asked me to check. Even though it was Christmas Day, it was New York City afterall, so I called the Box Office. To my surprise, the attendant told that there was an empty seat 2 seats down from mine and that the couple next to me would likely be open to moving down 1 seat so we could sit together. He said that he was willing to take that chance and proceeds to hand me his credit card so I could purchase his ticket.

The next day, we conveniently bumped into each other in the lobby. We talked for a bit, then decided to head out and do a bit of shopping. We almost burned holes in our shoes from all of the walking…hand-in-hand, arm-in-arm, 34th to 5th to Madison and everywhere in between, we walked and talked and shopped.bowtie

As his feet and back were deliriously paining him from our hours of walking in his fashionable, but not so comfortable shoes, we decided to head back to the hotel when I realized that I needed jewelry for the outfit I was wearing to the theater later that evening. I purposely didn’t bring anything because I wanted something new. He was absolutely spent, so I told him that he could head back to the hotel and I would find some jewelry, then head back. He didn’t think it was fair to leave me alone, so he hobbled along until I found a jewelry store on Madison Avenue. I quickly found a pretty necklace and asked him what he thought. He returned the question. He could tell that I wasn’t in love with it, so he told me to keep looking. There in the glass case was the most amazing statement necklace and I mumbled under my breath, “Gosh, this is gorgeous.” So he asked the attendant to pull it out. Of course, she brought out the earrings and bracelet too and sealed the deal when she made me try it all on. I loved it! And you know what happened next, right? Yep, he bought all 3 pieces!

kandyce

Carrying all of our bags, giving money to the homeless lady and her 2 crying kids, hurting feet and back, protecting me from traffic, he grabbed a taxi and back to the hotel we went. Time to get ready for Alvin Ailey! The show was very different from anything I’ve ever experienced from the Ailey dancers but was um, interesting. The only thing that would have made my evening at the Red Rooster any better was if Chef Samuelson had made a cameo, or if I were there just a few days earlier when former President Bill Clinton and Mayor de Blasio were dining together. We were both scheduled to leave the next evening. Persistent in communicating his desire to keep in touch, we agreed to meet the next afternoon to talk about it…

…he never showed up

He had seemingly vanished into thin air. I suppose unbeknownst to me, my prince had turned into a frog and the fairytale was over. Disillusioned and disappointed in myself for not leaving things where I wanted (in that lobby bar), I made the most of my last few hours in NYC and boarded my flight back to Brazil.

About 6 weeks later, I was awakened by a phone call around 3:30 in the morning. There was no number on the Caller ID. “Unavailable,” it read. I answered a sleepy, “hello, hello, hello.” No one spoke. I hung up and went to the bathroom. The call came in on my Brazilian cell phone… “Probably a wrong number,” I thought. But a few seconds later, the phone rang again. Hello? “Hello,” the voice replied. After a few seconds, it registered to my sleepy brain that the person on the other end was speaking English, so it wasn’t a Brazilian calling the wrong number, as I had previously assumed.

It was him. I immediately knew that it was him. “May I speak to Kandyce,” the voice entreated. “This is Kandyce.” “Hello Kandyce, this is… let’s just call him James.” After a long pause and a silent, but deep breath, I replied, “I know.” “How do you know,” he pleaded. “Because I’ve been waiting for you.”

The signal was breaking up, so I moved to the living room closer to the window. Obviously, I had questions…lots of them. Well, really only one question. I’m sure you probably guess what that question was. Naked, curled up on the red ottoman in my living room, looking out into the night sky from the floor to ceiling window, I asked my question…and I listened for his reply.

I would tell you stay tuned for Part III, but that story is still under construction. Honestly, I don’t know that there will ever be a Part III. I will satisfy your curiosity and tell you that I have seen him since that fateful phone call. I have even met his closest friends and a few of his colleagues…and assistants and drivers (I know, right). Still, I can’t say for certain that there will ever be a Part III. If it never comes, I am truly grateful for Parts I and II. I needed it. I needed to believe again. I needed God to show me what was possible.

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Your turn…

Tell me about a time when you have experienced a fairytale right in the middle of ordinary life? 

About New York

My flight landed at JFK around 5AM on Tuesday morning, December 23rd. Aside from the monstrosity of luggage I was carrying (fully prepared for a shopping spree, NYC style), deplaning and getting through customs were a breeze.

In addition to speaking with hotel management in advance, I am a Gold or Diamond or Platinum, or whatever other precious metal or gemstone member of the Marriott, so I fully expected that my early check-in request would be granted. However, I arrived at the beautifully decorated and eerily quiet hotel just before 6AM, and with a slight look of annoyance and the flattest monotone, the front desk associate told me that the hotel was completely sold out and that I my room would not be ready until that afternoon. Fine, I thought. I’ll just walk over to Starbucks and just enjoy the quiet of the morning and the sparkling lights. That lasted for about 30 minutes.

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I had a hair appointment at 9AM and took the chance and called the salon just before 7AM hoping that they would be willing to take me earlier. To my pleasant surprise, the woman on the phone told me to make my way to the salon now. So I grabbed a taxi and headed up to Harlem. I arrived to the salon, which was on the basement level of a very old brownstone. There was no heating and boy, was it cold down there. Aside from the cold, the salon was not all that clean and left little to be desired, but Yelp assured me that this was the place to have one’s hair braided in NYC, so after selecting my hair, I settled in. 7 hours later, they spun me around in the mirror to reveal the most amazing Senegalese twists. I’m not a huge fan of braids on me, but these braids were pure perfection, so when they quoted me slightly higher than we had previously discussed (par for the course), I didn’t mind paying. They had earned it!

Starving and tired, I hailed a taxi and headed back to Manhattan. It was almost 3 and I forgot that I had made an appointment at the incredible Bliss Spa for an eyebrow wax. The experience and ambiance and staff were all so amazing that I booked a half day of services for the next morning. After finally making it back to the hotel, I was finally able to shower and go to sleep. Ah, Day 1 was complete.

The next day was Christmas Eve, so it was time to explore the city before the show I had scheduled later in the day. Usually when I vacation, I keep my schedule very loose and play things by ear and adjust as the day unfolds. Not this trip! I had every detail planned to the nth degree, with the exception of Christmas Day. After a day filled with sightseeing, shopping, grazing at The Plaza Food Hall, riding horse & carriage through Central Park, and the Rockette’s, Day 2 was complete.

Rockettes

 

Christmas Day

I only had a few things planned (really, just eating and catching a double feature), so I left myself a lot of free time to relax and reflect on the season. The day started with a highly anticipated brunch at a restaurant with rave reviews and a beautiful menu. Unfortunately, the experience fell incredibly short. The restaurant was busy, but not at capacity and there were adequate “helpers” or “table runners” available. I was annoyed from the time I was seated…literally crammed into a corner next to the cash register. I thought I could manage, but as I was placing my order, I asked to be moved to the empty table next to mine. The waiter obliged. He was neither rude nor overly joyous. I placed my order for the most decadent fruit infused pancakes, eggs, and Canadian bacon (living in Brazil, these things are indeed a luxury) and a glass of the best sparkling wine on the menu. The waiter took my order, then said that they might be sold out of the Rosé, but would check with the bartender. He returned to the table to inform me that they were indeed sold out, and offered me the cheapest sparkling wine on the menu as an alternative <insert side eye>. My food arrived and I was hungry and ready to eat.

Brunch

The amount of syrup they brought me not sufficient, so I got the attention of one of the table runners to request more. He rudely obliged and disappeared into the kitchen. He returned a few moments later and while simultaneously turning his back, slammed down the ice cold syrup on the table. He was practically walking away as he slammed the syrup down. He absolutely REFUSED to look back in my direction, but I got the attention of one of the other “table runners” and asked him to send my waiter. After about 10-15 minutes and no waiter, I was livid! My food was cold, my syrup felt like it had come out of the freezer. I could almost hear my blood boiling. All that while that smug waiter-in-waiting who brought me the chilled syrup refused to look in my direction. I had had it! I got up from my table, put on my coat, and asked to speak to a manager. While unsuccessfully fighting my annoyance, I explained to her what had happened I very matter-of-factly told her that “I will NOT be paying for ANYTHING!” and walked out. I was beyond pissed! Well, it was more disappointment, because I was really looking forward to eating that food. My hotel had a restaurant, so I headed back that way. After waiting to be sat and watching 3 parties come in after me at the “no reservations accepted” restaurant, I stormed out of there too. This was NOT the way my Christmas Day was supposed to go!

After I calmed down, I decided to just ditch brunch and head to the movie theater earlier than I had planned. Since this brunch fiasco was throwing off my schedule, I had to find another theater and ended up in Times Square to watch Selma. After what I had just experienced, it probably wasn’t the best movie choice, but hey… My Christmas brunch ended up being movie popcorn and chocolate covered almonds. And instead of my sparking rose, I settled for a 20oz. bottle of Dasani. My plan was to see a double feature, but since my schedule was thrown off and I was really early, I would have to wait around for longer than I would have liked, so back to the hotel I went. I got back to the room and piddled around a bit, but quickly grew bored. So I decided to walk to the 24-hour Duane Reade a couple of blocks from the hotel to grab a few things requested by some colleagues back in Brazil. I freshened up a bit and headed out.

Now here comes the magic…

The hotel elevator doors opened and slightly slouched in the back corner, clutching a cell phone in each hand, was the most decadent piece of walking chocolate my eyes had beheld in quite some time…smartly dressed in perfectly fitting jeans, a snug charcoal grey sweater with leather elbow patches and coordinating scarf, and a neatly groomed salt and pepper beard…and smelling of the sexiest musky cologne. I gave him a polite smile and got on the elevator. Still rubbing lotion into my hands, I see him checking me in my peripheral. So I give him a half glance back as if to say, “Yeah, I see you too.” After a few seconds he speaks in a thick accent…”Greetings of the Season.” After a few clumsy, “I’m sorry’s?” from me, I was finally able to make out what he was saying. I recovered with a warm smiled, ever so slightly batted my eyes and replied, “Oh thank You. Same to you.”

 

Read about what happened next in About New York – Part II

Table for One

After being sick and stuck in my hot apartment for 3 days, I needed to get out. It was Sunday, so I decided to go to church.

The “church” is housed in the meeting space of a suburban hotel. Before and after service, beverages and snacks are available to help facilitate community and communication. Its theme is “No one should have to do life alone,” so they do their best to create an environment where everyone feels like they are a part of a community. I chatted a bit with a few folks after service, then made my way out. Small talk isn’t really my thing. I’m more into long, meaningful conversation over a bottle of wine.

On my way home, I stopped by the cutest little organic food store near my apartment to grab something to eat.

I arrived home and set my table for lunch:

  • 1 placemat
  • 1 plate
  • 1 glass
  • 1 fork
  • 1 knife
  • A table for one.

Table for One (Dark Edges)As I sat down to eat, the silence was deafening. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate my quiet time alone and even crave it most of the time, but today was a different story. “My life is empty,” I thought. I literally have no one in my life with whom I can share a meal and a conversation. It didn’t make sense! I mean, I have achieved a modicum of success. I managed to secure an expatriate assignment in Brazil. I own a home. I have a few designer pieces in my closet. I enjoy all types of live music. I can appreciate good wine and a good laugh. I have a healthy spiritual life. I have traversed several continents. I’m cute. I’m charming. I’m smart. I can even be funny when the mood strikes. I have things. I have experiences. But I have no one.

So there I sit at my uber chic all glass rectangular dining table with seating for 6, yet only 1 seat occupied. It was just too much to bear.

As I cut my chicken, the sound of the knife hitting the plate and echoing off of the barren walls simply drove me to tears. The aloneness was palpable. I could feel it in every inch of my body. My heart was aching. I wanted to run away! I needed to get out of that apartment! I needed to escape the mocking betrayal of the silence. The four walls that were designed to keep me safe had now seemingly turned on me. They were closing in on me and threatening to completely crush my spirit. But running seemed cowardice. So I was forced to stay and face my silent demon. After several attempts at trying to comfort myself and force myself to “snap out of it”, I eventually ended up on my knees, face down in the seat of the chair that I once sat eating my chicken, drowning in a pool of my own tears.

I was a mess!

Sure, I know that God is always with me. I really do. I know He’s there protecting me. I know His Spirit guides me. And gosh, how He loves me! My spirit knows it well. But I am not all spirit. I am also human…flesh and bone. And that reality makes me fallible and weak at times, and leaves me wanting. Wanting to hear an audible response, wanting to smell a familiar scent, wanting to feel the heartbeat, and touch the face…wanting to taste what’s unique only to one. And yes, I even know the scripture that tells me that God sympathizes with my weaknesses. I know that my God understands. And yet His seemingly ethereal understanding does nothing to lessen my wanting.

So what’s a girl to do? 

Go to New York City! After all, everyone finds love in NYC… or at least that’s what all of the movies suggest.

Well, I booked a Christmas flight to the Big Apple and decided to put this theory to the test.

Stay tuned for Part II: About New York…